Life Continues to Teach Me

I thought I was learning how to play golf.

Instead, I’m actually discovering how I’ve been playing life.

Golf has me challenging every belief I’ve ever subscribed to my whole life … and is making me question everything I’ve accepted as truth.

And, over the next few weeks, I’d love to share some of these reflections with you as I continue to learn.

Today’s lesson is about Expectations.

This morning I realised that so much of my frustration in life hasn’t come from where I am.

It’s come from where I believe I should be.

I caught myself thinking…

“I’ve hit hundreds and hundreds of golf balls now … and I should be so much better than I am.”

Then I laughed at myself 😃

Tiger Woods didn’t become Tiger Woods by hitting hundreds of balls.

He hit thousands of balls every day for years … starting from the time he was a little boy.

So my expectations weren’t based on anything like reality.

They were based on impatience and ‘should be’

Then another AHA moment – I realised I do exactly the same thing in my business.

I’ve helped hundreds of people transform their lives.

I have wonderful testimonials.

I know the work I do changes people and I’ve even been told I am the female Tony Robbins.

So somewhere along the way I started believing…

“I should be as busy as Tony Robbins.”

Then came – a big reality check with …. Really Pam … Really!

I stopped dead and thought about it, and had to laugh hard at myself 🙂

I haven’t spent decades building a global brand.

I haven’t spoken to millions of people.

I haven’t consistently put myself out there in the way he has.

So why on earth was I expecting the same outcome?

It made me realise that sometimes our greatest source of disappointment isn’t failure.

It’s the expectations we place on ourselves that have no basis in reality.

So today, I reminded myself to stop “should-ing” all over my life.

To keep learning.

To keep showing up .. and

To trust that becoming isn’t a race.